My favorite things
1. Romcoms
2. Dramas (tv)
3. Flammin’ hot Cheetos ( fries)
4. French vanilla capocinos ( quick trip only)
5. Cheese fries
6. Strawberry frozen margaritas ( almost any frozen margarita)
It’s not you, it’s me.
Sometimes you have to be woman enough to know that its not him its you ladies. It is you, not misreading the signs, but giving the signs the guy is giving off the meaning you want it to have. It is you ignoring his very clear actions and sometimes even clearer words! That he is just not that into you. It is you forcing the idea that you and this guy are an item. It is you that is willing shelling out the girlfriend behave then wondering why he seems to continue to say and act like he is single. It is you who is imagining that this unattainable guys is in a relationship with you but is flirting with other girls. Then you’re left feeling dumb, embarrassed, used, and taken advantage of. Now you’re mad at the guy and defaming his character.
Well I am sorry to tell you this miss lady but in this situation. Those feelings were inflicted by you! If you would have taken to the time to really listen and take what this guy was telling you through his actions ( and sometimes words) this wouldn’t have happened. Don’t beat yourself up. It happens all the time and it happens to the best of us. However, you just can’t blame the guy. He told you/showed you he didn’t want you but you shelled out the girlfriend behavior anyway. That is your fault! Lets be real, who is going to turned down free food, free merchandise, and free pussy? Like thats “love” ( as they say) right there and you are the only one to blame. I also know that the realization that you have imagined an entire relationship takes some time.
Just make sure for future references that you WATCH his behavior! LISTEN to his words!! Some guys will spell it out for ya. YOU have to listen! If a guy is telling you he doesn’t want a relationship, if he is telling you he is single and you can’t comment on who is texting him or what he is tweeting on twitter ( but with you everyday) , and even if , no ESPECIALLY if, he is texting you sweets nothings by night but is on twitter wildin’ by day. Take heed to this and keep it moving. Do not, I repeat DO NOT! shell out the girlfriend behavior and the cookie if he has made it clear through other aspects that he doesn’t want you. If a mans wants you honey there won’t be a question in your mind that he does. Do not waste your time imagining a relationship with this guy who is being clear that he is non-commital, even if his commitment issues are exclusive to you. Don’t waste your time and miss an opportunity with a guy who does want you and could be the best thing that has ever happened to you and I mean you guys could have “fell in love to the bottom baby ” in my JT voice. Please don’t waste your time and inflict these horrible feelings on yourself. Just DON’T DO IT. You are better than that and you deserve better than that. Give yourself a chance.
P.S. You can’t change him!
PSA: US women need to start sticking together.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
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| — | Stephen R. Covey (via literatureandcigarettes) |
